27 Jan Letting go to live more serenely
To live serenely and no longer be invaded by parasitic thoughts, we often read that we need to “let go”. That’s all well and good, but what exactly do you have to let go of? The concept may seem abstract to those new to personal development.
It’s all about accepting that you can’t control everything. Often, our ego and our various fears force us – unconsciously – to master everything. We have conditioned ourselves to control and anticipate everything in order to limit risks as much as possible. But you’ve noticed that life doesn’t always turn out the way you planned. There are always unforeseen events that call into question your organization, so perfectly oiled on paper. As a result, you’ll try even harder to control the elements and people around you, and stress out again. By letting go and accepting that you can’t control everything around you, you’ll find that you can move forward more calmly and with a freer mind. Several techniques exist to achieve this way of thinking and, above all, acting. The first step is to live consciously in the present, which can also be seen as a gift. The past doesn’t exist, we’ve always lived in the present. It’s simply a fabrication of the mind to maintain regrets and remorse. As for the future, it only serves to contact fears. Taking pleasure in what you do every day allows you to refocus on what’s essential: your happiness. Eating a dish you like, chatting with people you care about, watching a film you like, all bring you everything you need to be happy. To let go doesn’t mean to stop planning or organizing, but to take real action. Action is the only thing that counts, and thoughts can only lead you into a negative spiral of guilt or self-sabotage. So set the actions that will enable you to meet your needs and expectations, and the universe will respond with the right answers. You’ll see that if you stop focusing on the outcome of your actions, constantly anticipating the reactions of the people around you and the course of events, you’ll initially find your mind light and relieved of all those parasitic thoughts that end up discouraging you. Afterwards, you’ll be able to focus on another action, without asking yourself hundreds of pointless questions that will prevent you from moving forward. That, too, is the beauty of existence. Nothing is set in stone and we can, by knowing what we really want to satisfy our needs and desires, build a life that matches our expectations. As you can imagine, letting go requires regular practice. We’ve been conditioned from an early age to try to control everything, and it’s by acting consciously, a little more each day, that we’ll achieve a serene and peaceful state of mind. You can get help on this journey to true self-confidence by an experienced therapist, such as a hypnotherapist, who will listen to you and find the right tools to guide you through this rewarding process.