27 Jan Hypersensitivity: an asset in your life?
What is Hypersensitivity?
It’s the need to identify oneself, to recognize oneself, that comes down to give meaning to what we live. Since we are born and even in utero we are in constant connection with our environment. We adapt ourselves to grow up and make a place for us in our family and in society. Our reactions define our personality, which is the result of our experience. So is hypersensitivity an innate character trait? Or is it a way to adapt? In other words, are we born hypersensitive or do we become so?
It appears that only 20% of the population is hypersensitive. Then, how to define this notion?
Hypersensitivity is an increased sensitivity to everything that surrounds us by an enhancement of the 5 senses. We react more strongly to external stimuli. This hyper-emotionality manifests itself in certain situations that can resonate with memories, emotional knots from traumas experienced in childhood, but not only with those. We carry within us everything that our ancestors have left us. A heritage which comes sometimes heavy with secrets, unspoken things that prevent us from living our life fully and serenely. The hypersensitive person does not support injustice and feels the emotions of others. They are like a sponge or a magnet for emotions and this is true from the time of the foetus’ absorption of its mother’s stress in the womb. The baby develops a reflex for constantly adapting to these stimuli in order to stay alive. From childhood onwards, we are therefore constantly vigilant in an anxiety-inducing environment.
The difficulty of living when one is hypersensitive.
Whether within the family or in society, the hypersensitive person will often be met with incomprehension and can withdraw into himself, feeling a great solitude which all too often is misunderstood. The wounds of the hypersensitive person are often linked to those of rejection, of living since childhood as different and apart from the others, because they perceive what other people do not see and can exclude themselves by not understanding the rest of the people. We often find dreamers who are less into action than observation. The hypersensitive child is a gentle dreamer and cannot stand to do wrong, which can lead him/her to easily feel guilt and to constantly question him/herself. They can lose confidence in themselves, being constantly in doubt. They may have difficulty asserting themselves and putting others before themselves. They are very empathetic. That’s why they find so many obstacles in finding their place in a society that does not value emotions. They will have difficulty fitting into a system where competition is emphasized, as is the case in Western societies.
The assets of the hypersensitive person.
As not everything is negative, this character trait is also an asset to survive in the human jungle. As the hypersensitive person is very reactive, he/she understands more quickly and outside the box, with a tree-like thinking. If the person lives well with this hypersensitivity, he will develop skills that are highly sought after in the business world such as being a good manager, a teammate who can be counted on and who has a sense of justice, but also a creative person whose abundance of ideas will be appreciated in certain fields. Almost all artists are hypersensitive people. The hypersensitive person is also endowed with a great intuition which serves to avoid certain problematic situations simply because he does not feel them. He will then be able to make more enlightened choices which will avoid making mistakes if he will be able to listen to his feelings and to trust himself. Finally, empathy is an essential quality for building authentic relationships. It is often in people with this type of personality that we will have confidence because listening is their strength and they inspire trust. Hypersensitive people are often found in care and support professions.
When one suffers from hypersensitivity, it is necessary to get help from a professional who will be able to accompany one on the path to recovery and to develop a rare and unique potential. To regain self-confidence, to assert oneself, to move forward to find one’s place and why not one’s mission.
Consultation by appointment. Laurence DELINOT Psychological practitioner specialized in the support of hypersensitive and high-potential people.