{"id":8162,"date":"2024-10-21T13:58:55","date_gmt":"2024-10-21T11:58:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.cabinet-hypnose-a-paris.fr\/how-to-heal-a-wound-of-abandonment\/"},"modified":"2024-10-21T13:58:55","modified_gmt":"2024-10-21T11:58:55","slug":"how-to-heal-a-wound-of-abandonment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.cabinet-hypnose-a-paris.fr\/en\/how-to-heal-a-wound-of-abandonment\/","title":{"rendered":"How to heal a wound of abandonment?"},"content":{"rendered":"

My name is Laurence DELINOT and I am a certified practitioner of Ericksonian hypnosis<\/span><\/a> and humanistic hypnosis<\/span><\/a> since 2010. I have also been trained inEMDR<\/span><\/a> to complement my practice and support people on their emotional healing journey. In this article, I’ll be talking about the abandonment wound and how to heal from it. If you recognize yourself in this description, if you suffer from emotional dependence in your relationships, then it may be time to make an appointment. If you’d like to learn more about emotional wounds<\/span><\/a>don’t hesitate to read my article on the rejection wound<\/span><\/a>. <\/p>\n

The insecure attachment bond at the root of the abandonment wound<\/h2>\n

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The wound of abandonment develops early in life, whether through a traumatic event <\/strong>such as abandonment at birth, or the loss of a parent, or depression or any other illness that prevents the attachment figure from caring for the child’s vital needs. The wound is rekindled in different ways, in the way the person perceives the absence of the other <\/strong>without any objective link to reality. For example, the birth of a little brother or sister can be experienced as an abandonment, the first day of nursery school as well, and later a break-up in love or friendship. We recognize that in anxious attachment<\/span><\/a>the caregiver does not respond consistently to the child’s need<\/strong> for reassurance. In the child’s experience, the suffering of absence is not consciously acknowledged, and the lack is gradually inscribed in a solitude where the other is not there. The child doesn’t feel abandoned, but experiences loss through emptiness<\/strong>. Emptiness is a source of anxiety. In the case of a parent’s death or illness, the child experiences it in the same way. It was there and it’s not there anymore. Separation is painful because it makes the child relive this loss in the flesh.<\/p>\n

Abandonment syndrome: the causes of feelings of abandonment<\/h2>\n

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Abandonment syndrome is defined by the constant fear of being abandoned or rejected<\/strong>. Whether in friendly, loving or family relationships. In behavior, it’s an almost absolute availability to others that makes them forget their own needs.<\/strong> Abandoners can’t say no, can’t set limits. There is a constant fear of conflict, and the protection that is naturally put in place very early on to avoid experiencing abandonment is denial. The fear of displeasing is more important than respecting and listening to oneself. The person suffering from this wound is trapped in the judgment of others<\/strong>, projecting their own judgment onto themselves. “I’m not enough” is a recurring limiting belief. <\/p>\n

How can you recognize the symptoms of abandonment?<\/h2>\n

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L’anxiety<\/span><\/a> is one of the main symptoms of abandonment. It’s a permanent state of anguish linked to the fear of being left<\/strong>, and finding oneself alone. The fear of being cheated on, in the love relationship without there being any apparent signs, leads to : <\/p>\n